I’ve been coaching for many years now, and the biggest thing I’ve learned – both for my clients and me – is that inner confidence is the key to everything. Unfortunately, however, most people lack self-confidence.
There are all kinds of strategies, ways of thinking, patterns of behavior, and practical tips for improving your life and feeling better about yourself, but they’re all redundant if the foundation isn’t there. The trick is that it takes confidence to find that and to bring out who you are – here are the three keys to real inner confidence.
Get to Know Your Values
Personal values are a big passion of mine—they’re one of the most important things you can know about yourself and are vital in getting genuine inner confidence. A value is something in yourself, others, or the world most important to you. It could include things like beliefs, progress, family, fun, achievement, or freedom.
Your values are all yours, and no matter what happens, no one can ever take them away.
Exercise the Muscle
Confidence is a muscle, and like any muscle, you need to exercise it so that it doesn’t shrink and waste away. To work on your confidence, you need to be prepared to take risks – big or small. Stretch yourself in an unfamiliar direction, try something new or try something in a slightly different way. You need to open yourself up to the possibilities around you and push yourself to increase what you know, what you do, and who you are. The more open you are to risk, opportunity, and possibility, the more confident you need to be, and so the more confidence you’ll develop. That’s your confidence muscle.
Keep Your Promises
When you don’t keep promises to yourself, your confidence will tank! I developed Life on a 3X5 to help people keep their promises.